Making Sexual Fantasies a Reality

There are some sexual fantasies which are extremely unlikely to become reality for most men. Yes, a man may fantasize about having steamy, lusty sex with their favorite Hollywood (or Bollywood or Aussiewood, etc.) star, but for most men, such desires are aiming a bit too high. However, provided he practices good penis health, there’s ample reason to believe a man can move any number of sexual fantasies off the wish list and into the realm of reality. It just takes a little determination and some guts.

Following are a number of common sexual fantasies along with some tips on making them realities. For most of these, the assumption is that the man is not in a relationship with a partner who is willing to go along with these fantasies. (For those with potentially willing partners, the bigger challenge is often working up the nerve to broach the subject with them in the first place.)

- Having sex with an unseen partner. How many guys have fantasized about being sexually served by someone whom they can’t even see? For many, this is high on the hot sexual fantasies list. Yet it’s one of the more easily accomplished. Many adult bookstores and similar establishment have booths with "gloryholes" through which one may slip an erect penis and have it serviced by whoever lurks in the next booth. And many hook-up apps allow a person to be similarly serviced at a person’s home while blindfolded. However, and these are big caveats, one must be aware that random servicing at a gloryhole or by a stranger increases the risk of sexually-transmitted infections (STIs) significantly, and that hook-up arrangements have been known to lead to a person being robbed or worse. A man needs to weigh these risks before acting on this or any other risky fantasies.

- Becoming a mile-higher. Having sex while in a plane flying high in the sky sounds very exciting. Unfortunately, airplane bathrooms are notoriously cramped and airplane seats make partner-based sex difficult - and again, risky. A compromise? Masturbate in the bathroom. It’s a legitimate form of sex, and if asked for details, just smile enigmatically and say a gentleman doesn’t discuss.

- Getting tied up. More and more, people are becoming both more open about their own kinks and more accepting of kinks in others. Online hook-up sites often feature a variety of people who freely acknowledge their interest in and/or experience with bondage and other fetishes. So meet a potential partner for a drink and see if it feels safe to move on into kink. Big tip: Don’t engage in any bondage activities without both agreeing to a "safe" word to stop the action. Also, don’t go beyond the comfort zone. If a man doesn’t feel he wants both arms tied to a bed post, he has the right to have his wishes respected.

- Trying a threesome. Again, people are more open about multiple partner activities nowadays. A little exploration and asking of appropriate questions online (and at a follow-up meeting) can help a guy decide if he and other potential members of a threesome are compatible. The biggest thing for a man to decide in advance is, "Am I okay with a threesome with two males or only with two females?"

It will be less stressful making sexual fantasies into a reality if a man sports a healthy looking penis, so daily application of a top notch penis health oil (health professionals recommend Man 1 Man Oil, which is clinically proven mild and safe for skin) can be a boon. He will want the penis to get all the nutrients possible, so he should select an oil with a range of vitamins, including A, B5, C, D and E. Also key: an oil with a powerful antioxidant (like alpha lipoic acid) to fight free radicals and prevent oxidative damage.

Sexual Fantasies: Not Just for Men

While men are familiar with their own sexual fantasies, they may not know much about their female partners’ mental tristes. Some men may assume, consciously or unconsciously, that most women don’t have sexual fantasies, as society pretends that sex is predominantly a male preoccupation. To the contrary, most women experience fantasies, and men would do well to become familiar with their partners’ in the interest of promoting greater sexual health and enjoyment. This will give them the opportunity to incorporate elements of a woman’s sexy thoughts into playtime, and possibly find some overlapping fantasies for both to revel in.
The following information comes from the results of a 2014 survey of over 1,500 women in Quebec. Note: Men should never assume a woman has a fantasy or think that she should have it. Getting to know one’s partner’s unique hot buttons is imperative. The following only offers some idea of what one might be in for.

Different locations
 
Location turns out to be a crucial aspect in women’s sexual fantasies - at least among those surveyed, with 86.4% reporting that location along with atmosphere are important in their fantasies, and 81.7 said they fantasize about sex in an "unusual" location (such as the office or a bathroom stall). A little over half - 57.3% -- fantasize about sex specifically in a public place, out in the open.

Now, it’s important to be cautious when selecting a location. Due to public indecency laws, consent morality and more practical concerns like losing one’s job, a couple can’t just have sex wherever they may want. Also keep in mind that the presence of a fantasy doesn’t mean a person actually wants to fulfill it. But a couple can find ways to engage these fantasies safely and ethically - for example, they may pretend they are in public and entertain some dirty talk about being watched, or they may find consenting individuals to watch them in the act or view a video of it. They could also engage in sex in a slightly less unusual, but still atypical, location, such as the kitchen instead of the bedroom.

Oral sex
 
While a man should certainly not assume all or even most women want to spend tons of time fellating men, the survey did show a high level of fantasy around providing oral sex, with 72.1% experiencing such fantasies. More - 78.5% - answered yes to the more broadly-framed "I have fantasized about taking part in fellatio/cunnilingus."

Men should ask women how they feel about providing oral. Some are fine with it, so long as it doesn’t take over sex, and/or it is reciprocated. Some are more enthusiastic about it, and may fantasize about performing it in certain positions, or with added kinky elements, such as having their hair pulled and heads directed if submission is their thing. Women with a dominant streak may prefer having complete control and participating in kinks like orgasm control and denial.

Masturbation
 
Many survey participants reported fantasizing about being masturbated by a partner (71.4%) and masturbating a partner (68.1%). This suggests that, for many women, manual play, both received and administered, is a desirable aspect of sexual activity.

Fortunately, it’s easy to incorporate! Masturbation, whether one-at-a-time or mutual, is a great way to pleasure one’s partner while learning more about his or her body. It can add a level of intimacy and pleasure to sex that may be lacking without it. So get those hands busy.

Men who are taking steps to improve their sex lives should, of course, not neglect the part of their body most affiliated with the act. Penile upkeep is imperative to keeping the member in peak form both aesthetically and functionally. Along with regular washing, frequent use and wearing protection, men can go the extra mile by incorporating a penis health crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil) into their care regimens. Keeping the manhood moisturized will protect it against chafing from friction and promote the maintenance of high sensitivity levels in the long run. Better penile health means better sex, and is worth the investment.

Making Sexual Fantasies Come True

Sexual fantasies are part and parcel of every man’s daily life; sometimes they remain fantasies, but in many cases they can be brought into the real world and may lead to better sex for a man and his partner (or partners). While there’s nothing wrong with keeping sexual fantasies as part of a man’s masturbatory experiences, incorporating some fantasies into a relationship can have benefits. Part of appropriate penis care includes making sure the organ remains involved and interested, and spicing up one’s sex life can do just that.

For the man interested in exploring sexual fantasies with a partner, here are a few tips.

- Prioritize. The first thing for a man to do is get his sexual fantasies in order. Some men have only one or two fantasies; others have dozens, perhaps hundreds. For those with multiple fantasies, it’s important to understand that it may not be possible to realize many of them. That’s why it’s a good idea to take a few moments to sort through them and decide which are the ones that really would have the biggest impact and lead to a better sex life for the man and his partner. Once that has been accomplished, he should pick a handful - the top three or top five, perhaps - and concentrate on these fantasies.

- Examine the fantasies. Once the top fantasies have been selected, the man then needs to look at them objectively. Are these fantasies that are physically possible given a man’s circumstances? For example, fantasies involving elaborate machinery may not be very likely to occur. Or a man who fantasizes about, say, engaging in oral sex while sky diving may have to keep that as just a fantasy. But many fantasies can easily be achieved: Role playing a situation in which a man is a cop and his partner is a burglar, for example, or engaging in sex in the middle of a forest are "do-able" fantasies.

- Consider available partners. Assuming that these fantasies involve at least one other person, the man then needs to think about who might be willing to be involved in exploring these fantasies. If in a monogamous relationship, the answer is fairly clear. If a man has several sexual playmates, the field is more open.

- Think about partner preferences. Once the partner options have been considered, a guy should weigh what he knows about the partners to determine which one(s) would be most amenable to the desired fantasies. For example, an actress might be very good at engaging in some role playing fantasies. A partner with sensitive skin may not be open to sex on a sandy beach. Perhaps something that one partner said earlier indicates a curiosity about exploring a threesome.

- Bring the subject up delicately. Once a man has matched a potential fantasy to a potential partner, he should probably bring the subject up delicately. Thrusting a whip into a woman’s hand and saying "I’ve been a bad, bad boy. Punish me!" might be a tad startling if it comes out of the blue. Ease into it instead: Make a joke slyly referencing a desire to be punished, or gently lead the conversation around to fantasies and ask what fantasies one’s partner might have, etc.

Adding sexual fantasies can definitely make for better sex, so a man needs to make sure his equipment is in proper health for new fun and games. Regular use of a first-class penis health cream (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil) helps maintain general manhood health. The best creams contain a powerful antioxidant (such as alpha lipoic acid) that offsets harmful oxidative processes and avoids premature aging of penis cells. In addition, a cream with l-arginine can help with the process that keeps penile blood vessels open and blood flowing, an important component of male member health.

Living Sexual Fantasies -- 10 Things Every Guy Needs to Try

What man doesn’t want a little bit of sexual adventure in his life? Whether he is hoping to spice up a long-term relationship with a little exotic fun, or has yet to settle down and is still sowing his wild oats, there are certain fantasies many men have in their spank bank. Here are the top 10 sexual fantasies every man needs to experience - or role-play - to complete the ultimate bucket list. Guys may also learn a thing or two about how best to maintain penis health while checking off these risqué exploits.

1) Have a threesome - It seems like every guy’s ultimate fantasy is to have a ménage-à-trois. What dude doesn’t want two chicks going bananas over him? While this may be the ultimate night out for a single guy, it can get much more complicated for those in a committed relationship. Think very hard before going down that road with a girlfriend or wife, as the much-coveted threesome has ruined many a relationship! Men should only enter into an encounter like this after some serious discussion - and full agreement. To have the same excitement sans sex, try visiting a strip club and getting a steamy lap dance in a private room as a couple - this stimulates the fantasy without taking it too far.

2) Have a one night stand - The idea of meeting a woman, hooking up with her and parting ways never to see each other again really gets a man going. This no-strings-attached type of encounter falls strictly on the single guy’s bucket list, but be sure to use a condom and exchange a sexual history before doing the deed. Though a guy may remember a one-night stand forever, he doesn’t need a memento of it in the form of a life-long sexually transmitted infection.

3) Make a sex tape - Sure, the lighting may not be Hollywood-worthy, and one is sure to see some unflattering angles, but making a video while doing the deed is a fun sexual fantasy that any couple can do - so long as both parties are willing.

4) Join the mile-high club - What guy - or girl - hasn’t thought about hooking up in those tiny airplane bathrooms. The excitement of possibly getting caught ramps both people up for a fast and furious quickie.

5) Sex in the water - Maybe it’s because the movies always make it look sexy, but who hasn’t fantasized about taking a sexy swim? Just make sure to have an exit strategy if using a public body of water sans swimsuit,

6) Have sex in a public place - Whether the beach, woods, or a parked car piques a guy’s fancy, having sex in a public place increases the risk factor and makes it exciting. Plan carefully before doing the deed, though - sex on the beach sounds sexy, but sand doesn’t feel so good on one’s private areas!

7) Have anal - Even if it turns out not to be a preferred sexual position, every man needs to experience anal sex at least once in his life - it’s like a sexual rite of passage.

8) Hook up with a cougar - Or a gold digger; the idea of sleeping with women much older or much younger than himself makes a man feel sexually invincible, as if he could please any woman. Married? Ask the wife to do a little role playing - hello, sexy schoolgirl outfit.

9) Engage in bondage - The best selling 50 Shades series has suddenly made S & M and bondage an exciting, acceptable practice. So take a page from the book (literally) and act out a little bondage fantasy play - just don’t forget to establish a "safe" word.

8) Sleep with a foreign chick - There’s just something about a girl with an accent that drives men crazy. Take it to the next level and take her home - the less English she speaks, the better! Married guys can get in on the action too - a cute outfit and a fake accent can go a long way in the bedroom.

Keeping the penis adventure-ready
Whether getting ready for a home-made film or prepping for an adult pool party, a man has to keep his member healthy and ready for sex at all times. In order to achieve this, he needs to take excellent care of it by always using a condom - nothing spoils a good sexual exploit like a pregnancy or STI scare. Also, using a daily penis vitamin crème (health professionals recommend Man 1 Man Oil) can help improve circulation to the area, which may provide greater levels of nutrient- and oxygen-rich blood, so he is ready for whatever comes his way!