How to Have Better Sex - A Couples Guide to Vibrators

Sex toys can add a new dimension to a couple's shared activities; some men may be surprised to learn that a vibrator can be used to make his tool an extremely happy penis. Because vibrators have for so long been thought of as primarily a woman's toy, many men don't think about experimenting with these toys themselves. But by taking just a little bit of gentle penis care, a man and his partner can both undergo an experience that, yes, gives fresh meaning to "good vibrations." Here’s how to have better sex using a vibrator together.

His and hers
The couple that is interested in making mutual use of vibrators may want to consider investing in two toys; this is especially recommended if either or both are intended to be used for anal stimulation. If couples opt to share one device, it should be cleaned after anal stimulation and before being used by the partner.

Aside from possible hygiene reasons, separate vibrators may also be desirable for a number of reasons:

- If one partner is more experienced with vibrators and/or dildos, he or she may be ready for a toy of a larger size than the "newbie."

- Shape can play a role. Some men may want a round or egg-shaped device for rolling around his penis and testicles, while his partner may desire something more phallus-shaped. Men wishing to use the toy to massage the prostate may prefer a shaft-shaped device that has a bit of a curve to it, which allows for easier access to the target.

- Couples may simply want to both engage in vibrational activities at the same time.

Male options
Although the term vibrator typically conjures up pictures of an oversized phallus, these items come in many different shapes and sizes. In addition to the penis shaped traditional style, variations include:

- Penis ring vibrators that slip over the penis and/or the testicles and look just like ordinary penis rings - but provide a pleasing electro-stimulating effect.

- Vibrating penis sleeves that fit over most or all of the shaft and provide intensely pleasurable stimulation throughout the shaft and glans.

- Finger vibrators that fit right over the finger and therefore provide great flexibility and ease of movement.

- Handheld devices - often egg-shaped or otherwise designed to fit basically in the palm of the hand - that are also very useful for reaching "hard to get to" places.

- Prostate stimulators that are specifically designed to help a man (or his partner) reach the prostate and allow for maximum stimulation; some of these are built so that once inserted, they can largely be left there so a man can get the effects "hands free."

Double the pleasure
Many couples enjoy using vibrators together, either each one stimulating him/herself or each other. When using the device on the other partner, it's important to remember a few things:

- Start slowly, especially if one partner is inexperienced. There's no need to rush.

- Take time to find the right speed at the right time. Speeds can be adjusted, so work with the partner to find the speed that is most pleasurable. This is especially true when working on anal stimulation, as slight variations in speed can have a big effect.

- Communicate. Moans and sighs are good, but sometimes a person needs to provide specific instructions on where to place the vibrator, how much pressure to use and what speed to try.

One other important tip to keep that vibrator-fueled penis a happy penis: regularly use a top notch penis health cream (health professionals recommend Man 1 Man Oil) in case the toy causes a little soreness. Rubbing in a cream with refreshing, soothing shea butter can do wonders for aching penises; its moisturizing ability will refresh and pamper the tired tool. If that cream also contains L-arginine, which helps keep the penis blood vessels open and ready, so much the better for keeping the penis in good shape.

Soothing a Distressed, Sore Penis - How to Heal from Vibrator Damage

Few things give a man more pleasure than a powerful ejaculation, but the overactive pursuit of this goal can occasionally lead to a sore penis. Vibrators, long the province of sensual women, have over the years become more acceptable as a male orgasmic aid. Those who may overindulge in vibratory pleasures may need to take steps to ensure they practice proper penis care to promote healing.

The old reliable model
When men thank of vibrators, most probably think of the traditional "wand" style. This is the kind found in uncounted porn movies in which a lovely female pleasures herself with a vibrating penis substitute.

Often the vibrator is sleek and smooth and generally much longer than the average penis; thickness can vary (just as penis thickness may vary). Some vibrators are molded to bear a stronger physical resemblance to the shape of a penis, although again they are usually created on a larger-than-life scale.

Men can use these traditional vibrators to bring intense masturbatory pleasure. Some men enjoy starting off a masturbation occasion by running the vibrator all over their flaccid penis, letting the vibrator bring the penis to erection; others prefer to obtain the erection and then begin exploring vibratory sensations.

There's variety in vibrators
Many men don't realize that vibrators come in many more shapes and sizes than the above-mentioned traditional model. This may come as welcome news to men if the traditional vibrator's resemblance to a penis makes them hesitant to use it.

Here are some of the other styles of vibrators available to adventurous men:

1. The egg - An oval, egg-shaped vibrator may be just the ticket for some guys. The smoothness of its oval shape makes it ideal for rubbing all over a guy's manhood. Guys should be advised, however, that it's harder to hold than a typical vibrator, and the tingling may cause a numbness in the hand that holds it.

2. The vibrating sleeve - Masturbation sleeves are sex toys that seek to recreate the feel of a vagina. Typically, a silicone, rubber or fabric casing is created with enough space to accommodate an erect penis. The user either thrusts into the sleeve with his penis or lets the penis stay still and moves the sleeve up and down with his hand. Some sleeves are made with a vibrating element, and this can enhance the experience for many.

3. Finger vibrators - These miniature vibrators can be strapped onto a finger. This can be a real treat for guys, as the finger vibrator supplies intense tingling sensations and can be maneuvered with special ease. Finger vibrators are especially useful for stimulating the perineum (the area between the testicles and the anus), which is often ignored by men.

4. Penis ring vibrators - Many penis rings are made with a miniature vibrator attachment. The penis ring is used by some men to provide a more intense erection; the vibrating element provides a sensation at the base of the penis. Many men who then simultaneously provide manual stimulation at the glans report experiencing an especially noteworthy orgasm.

Many men who explore the use of a vibrator will enjoy the new dimension it can bring to their sex lives. The danger is that this new addition will lead a man to overindulge, resulting in an intensely sore penis.

There are worse things in life than a sore penis, of course, especially when one can use a penis nutrient cream (health professionals recommend Man 1 Man Oil) to help tend to the soreness and tenderness. Those with a high end moisturizer, such as Shea butter, will offer soothing, healing effects. If the cream includes L-arginine, it can help with blood flow to the penis, which further encourages an increase in oxygen availability and nutrient delivery.