Sex Toys for Beginners – Spice Things Up

More and more today, couples are opting to add sex toys to their private lives. This in no way diminishes the healthy erect penis and the job that it performs in keeping a couple's sex life happy; rather, it is an acknowledgement that there is a whole world of options in a couple's sex play, and nowadays anything can be considered. Sex toys will never replace a tool that has been given diligent penis care through the years – nor should they – but they can add a delectable touch of spice that makes any couple's experiences more fun.

Not a Requirement

Naturally, there's nothing that says that any couple has to incorporate sex toys into their romantic activities. Many, many couples are perfectly happy using their own body parts and nothing else in their sensual play.

But what about those who do want to look into expanding their horizons by adding toys into the mix? Where do they begin?

Assess

The first step, of course, is to make sure that both partners are on the same page. Are both partners interested in exploring the use of sex toys? Is one more interested than the other? Are there any specific concerns that should be aired and addressed?

We’re All Different

No two couples are the same, of course, and so what one couple is ready to do in terms of using sex toys may differ from what another couple is prepared to do; however, here are a few general guidelines for beginners looking for some new sensual devices.

• Start slow (or small). Purchasing a massive dildo right out of the gate may not be the wisest decision. A small handheld vibrating egg or massager may be more appropriate for two people who are just beginning to explore. This kind of device can be used on the penis and on the external area of the vagina to provide stimulation. If a person is ready for some form of insertion (vaginal or anal), a more petite dildo is probably a better bet for starters.

• Ring it up. Many men find that wearing a penis ring can really enhance their sexual experience – and just having their partner place it on their tools can be an exciting sensation. Care simply needs to be taken in picking the kind (leather, plastic, silicone, metal, etc.) that seems best. Some men also may feel more comfortable shaving their genitals before using a ring, in order to lessen the chance of pubic hairs being pulled inadvertently.

• Ball it (or bead it). Many beginners find using Ben-wa balls or vibrating beads quite pleasurable. These are small, round objects, usually strung together, which are inserted carefully into the vagina to provide direct stimulation. However, the user must be comfortable with the insertion of objects into the vagina and may need to work up to these. Ben-wa balls or beads are often used to provide secret sexual stimulation while in public.

There are many other sex toy options for beginners to consider; the most important thing is to choose a toy with which the user feels comfortable and to follow any instructions. (If lubrication is required, users should apply both the appropriate amount and pay attention to the kind of lubricant – such as water-based versus oil-based – that is recommended.)

Occasionally sex toys can result in a bit of rawness or soreness on a man's erect penis; using a nourishing penis health cream (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil) can help address this issue. Men should look for a cream that contains a high-end emollient (Shea butter is excellent) and a natural hydrator (such as vitamin E) to attend to any soreness resulting from toy use (or other causes). It's also best to select a cream that includes alpha lipoic acid, a superior antioxidant that may offset harmful oxidative and aging processes in penis cell metabolism.