The Male Oral Sex Experience: 6 Tips for Women

What comes to mind when someone says the word "sex"? For most straight individuals, it probably involves the insertion of a penis into a vagina. But even with penetrative sex being most often associated with the term, there’s a lot to be said for other forms of sex - especially oral sex. Men especially seem to have a great fondness for having oral sex practiced upon them, and as long as penis health and similar issues are not a concern, many partners are willing to give them what they want - at least occasionally. But many men really crave oral sex with greater frequency; for women wishing to satisfy their man orally, the following tips may prove useful.

- Be comfortable with the idea. Some women object to giving a man oral sex because they view it as demeaning to some extent. On the surface, it can appear that way, with a woman often kneeling and with a man seemingly in control. But in fact, the woman is often the one with the real power in the act. It is her ministrations, her decisions on how fast to go, which areas to include, how to involve the use of hands, et cetera, that decide whether the male will get the ultimate experience he desires. It pays to remember this and to approach the act from a position of strength so that it can be enjoyed more by both parties.

- Be comfortable with the execution. Yes, pornography teaches people that engulfing the entire penis with one’s throat is the ideal form of oral sex, something that might be difficult or even impossible for some oral sex givers. In fact, many men prefer oral sex that focuses more on the head of the penis. And even those who prefer attention to the entire shaft can be pleased by using hands near the base, thus preventing the uncomfortable gag reflex.

- Avoid teeth. Okay, some men actually do like a little nibble during oral sex, but most prefer to have their oral sex teeth-free. It can be difficult, but it pays to do one’s best to keep the teeth off of the penis, especially the delicate head.

- Include the balls. Removing the shaft from the mouth and spending some quality oral time on the balls is usually welcomed by the man. Plus, the change-up can give one’s mouth a little bit of a rest.

- Don’t rush (at first). Generally, both the receiver and the giver prefer to start things off a little slowly and then pick up the speed. For the receiver, this really heats up the whole sex process, making them more and more receptive as the activity goes on. For the giver, this gives them the chance to ease themselves in to things and to not get tired out too quickly.

- Don’t be afraid to make requests. During oral sex, the giver is going to be very up close and personal, so she should make requests so that the experience is pleasant for them as well. For example, they may want to request that the man refrain from "pumping" into her mouth if she finds that uncomfortable. If the penis has a strong odor or is unclean, the giver should definitely demand a thorough washing before proceeding.

Women and others who want to give oral sex to their male partners deserve a penis that is in good health, so men should be using a superior penis health oil (health professionals recommend Man 1 Man Oil, which is clinically proven mild and safe for skin) . If persistent penis odor is a problem, applying an oil with vitamin A is urged; that vitamin has anti-bacterial properties to fight unwanted penis odor. And dry, flaky, or scaly penis skin can often be avoided by using an oil with natural moisturizing agents like vitamin E and shea butter.

Penis Bumps: A Guide for Women

Men are so used to looking down and seeing their penis hanging there that they can forget that their favorite piece of equipment may hold some surprises to the women in their lives. Although men care great deal about both penis appearance and penis health, there are some things which women might be curious or alarmed about that a man might simply shrug off. For example, penis bumps. Guys know that sometimes they’re just there and sometimes they’re cause for concern – and this guide can help women know a little about when to be concerned.

All kinds of penis bumps

Penis bumps come in a variety of shapes, sizes and causes. These include:

- Pearly penile papules (PPP). Sometimes called hirsuties coronae glandis, pearly penile papules are tiny little bumps – usually white, pink or vaguely translucent – that can form around the penis head, usually around the ridge. They frequently form in a single or double row. The good news is that they are totally benign and are not contagious. Doctors don’t know why some guys have them and some don’t – but they are nothing to be concerned about.

- Fordyce spots. Another benign form of penis bumps, Fordyce spots can be found on both the shaft of the penis and on the balls. These pale little spots are actually visible sebaceous glands, which are used to transport lubricating oils to the skin. They are extremely common, with something like three-quarters of men sporting them. Again, they are harmless and also not contagious.

- Penile warts. These unattractive penis bumps tend to have a cauliflower-like appearance. Most of them are caused by human papillomavirus (HPV), which is a virus found in many, many people. In some people, the warts eventually heal naturally; in other cases, treatment is needed. Seeing a doctor is suggested, as in some cases, HPV can have serious consequences. HPV is easily spread through sexual contact, so partners should discuss this matter with a knowledgeable health practitioner.

- Scabies. Scabies are very tiny mites which can cause red penis bumps to appear if they infest the penile area. They are also easily spread through sexual engagement. Prescription medication is generally required to cure scabies.

- Syphilis. As penis bumps go, those caused by syphilis are the ones that many find scariest – and with good reason. Syphilis is one of the most noted sexually-transmitted infections (STIs). The first warning sign of syphilis is usually a chancre sore or sores – which could appear as penis bumps if that is where the infection entered the body. A rash may later appear, as well as in some cases wart-like bumps. This can be accompanied by fatigue, hair loss, soreness in the muscles, fever, sore throat, and swollen lymph nodes. In its final stages, syphilis can bring about widespread damage – to the nerves, brain, heart, eyes, liver and joints. Syphilis can definitely be spread through sexual contact, so receiving prompt treatment is required.

Women can feel more comfortable about penis bumps if they know their cause. They can also help men keep a better eye on their health and encourage them to daily apply a superior penis health creme (health professionals recommend Man 1 Man Oil, which is clinically proven mild and safe for skin). They may even want to help them pick out the preferred crème. If that is the case, the crème should definitely contain a wide range of vitamins, including A, B5, C, D, and E. Topical application of these vitamins via crème enables them to more directly favor the penis. The ideal crème will also include L-carnitine, a neuroprotective ingredient prized for its ability to help maintain proper penile sensitivity, even when the penis endures rough handling.

His Sore Penis: What Women Need to Know

Here’s something men may not be willing to tell their women: Sometimes a man gets a sore penis and, for a while at least, may not feel in the mood for sex. That’s not to say that the mood will necessarily last for a long time, or that he may not find himself eager to jump into bed with his partner despite his sore penis. Even when they know there may be some pain, many men will happily give in to the lure of sex - even if the soreness makes them regret it later. But since his long-term penis health affects his partner as much as it does him, women need to know a little about the sore penis.

It’s a societal thing

The fact is, men can often have a sore penis - much more often than one might think. And it’s the kind of thing they’re more willing to talk about with other guys than with women. (Although, to be fair, much of the time that they tell their buds they have a sore penis, it’s really just a way of bragging about the incredible sex they had last night.)

Still, many men feel that society pressures them to present an uber-macho façade where matters of the penis are concerned, especially with the women they take to bed. They feel an expectation that they can perform at the drop of a hat - and that they’re supposed to want to perform 24/7. But even the horniest of men are still only human and can fall prey to any number of soreness-inducing situations, such as:

- Overdoing it. Probably the most common reason a guy complains of a sore penis is because he’s been having too much sex (either with a partner or with his hand - or both). Remember that penis skin is very sensitive and filled with nerve endings - hence, the incredible pleasure a guy gets from sex. Too much activity can simply overwork the poor little fellow - a situation which a little rest usually can cure.

- Aggressive action. Sometimes, though, the problem isn’t too much penile activity - it’s too rough penile activity. Especially if it’s activity in which there is insufficient lubrication. So a guy who thrusts at too furious a pace, or whose penis is stroked at a lightning-fast pace by a hand devoid of lubrication, is going to find himself with a raw, painful penis.

- Allergy. Sometimes the soreness comes not from activity on that sensitive penis skin but from an allergic reaction - to chemicals in soap, fragrances in the detergent that cleans his underwear, etc. It causes a rash or other reaction which in some cases makes the manhood a little too tender to touch.

- A crotch punch. Getting hit in the groin with a baseball or other hard object can cause soreness that may last for days. Understandably.

Be gentle

So if a guy does complain about a sore penis, it helps if his partner is understanding. And she should know that he is likely going to want to get back into action earlier than he probably should - in which case, his partner can help by going slowly and helping him to ease back into things rather than jumping in at full throttle.

Women whose men complain of a sore penis should also encourage them to daily apply a first class penis health crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil, which is clinically proven mild and safe for skin) . Keeping the penis healthy means it will recover from whatever causes the soreness more quickly. The best crèmes can also help reduce the soreness. For example, one with both a high-end emollient (like Shea butter) and a natural hydrator (like vitamin E) can "double team" affected penis skin, re-moisturize, and help alleviate soreness. By the same token, if aggressively rough handling has de-sensitized the penis, a crème with a neuroprotective ingredient like L carnitine can help restore minor loss of sensation.

The Woman’s Guide to a Red Penis

Most women want to be sure that any penis they encounter is healthy; indeed, penis health is important for both the possessor of the penis and those who come into contact with it. But having no penis themselves, women sometimes can benefit from a guide to whether something is an issue or not. Take a red penis, for example. Is it something to be concerned about, or just part of the whole male package thing? This short guide will help to answer that question.

What is a red penis?

First, it pays to define just what is meant by a red penis. In some cases, a red penis simply refers to a penis that is basically red all over. This is very common with the penises of men who are fair skinned; when erect, the penis often takes on a red hue, due to the blood that fills the organ. When soft, a penis may also be red, due to heat or healthy blood circulation. Men with darker skin tend not to exhibit an actual redness, but the shade of their skin may change when more blood is flowing through it.

When looking at penis health, a red penis most often refers to portions of the penis having a reddish discoloration. Among the common causes of this kind of red penis are:

- Eczema or other skin rashes. Penis skin is very sensitive, perhaps because it is thinner than skin elsewhere on the body (in order to allow for expansion of the penis when erect and to keep easy access to nerve endings.) Unfortunately, this can make it susceptible to skin issues, such as eczema. Very often the culprit is a chemical which irritates the sensitive skin, with the chemical often present in a soap, cleanser, shampoo or detergent. Rashes can appear for other reasons as well. Jock itch, for example, is caused by a fungal infection. None of these are serious health issues, but they can interfere with the pleasures a penis likes to experience.

- Overuse/irritation. Sometimes a red penis results from rawness due to overuse or lack of lubrication. Friction is essential to sexual happiness, but if the friction continues for too long or is too strong, the skin gets rubbed raw. Remoisturization and rest can help, but repeated episodes that leave the penis raw can over time lead to a diminishment of sensation - something men want to avoid.

- Latex allergy. Sad to say, some people have an allergy to latex, which makes the use of many condoms problematic. Men who developed a red penis rash due to this issue will need to seek out non-latex condoms.

- Balanitis. Most often found in intact men, balanitis is an inflammation of the head and/or foreskin of the penis. Redness, swelling, pain/tenderness to touch, and peeling skin are often associated with balanitis. It can sometimes result in the foreskin not being able to retract behind the head as well. A doctor should be consulted to determine what treatment is necessary.

- STI (Sexually transmitted infection). Many STIs can create a red penis situation. If an STI is suspected, the man should be tested promptly, and sexually active men should be tested at least every six months anyway. It’s crucial that an STI be identified as early as possible so that treatment can be started while the infection is in early stages.

This guide should help women know a little more about the causes of a red penis. They should also know that men who regularly use a top notch penis health crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil, which is clinically proven mild and safe for skin) tend to have fewer penis health issues. A crème that contains a combination of moisturizing agents, such as a high-end emollient (like Shea butter) and a natural hydrator (like vitamin E) have healthier skin that may be better able to resist friction-related redness. Those who have experienced some loss of sensation due to lack of lubrication want a crème with L-carnitine, an amino acid with neuroprotective properties.

The Bent Penis: What Women Need to Know

More than a few women have discovered that the world of men’s penises can hold quite a few surprises. For example, many women have been with a man and surprised to discover that when he unveiled his manhood, what presented itself was a bent penis. This can be disconcerting to many women, raising questions about whether this is a penis health issue, how the member got that way in the first place, whether this will affect their ability to have sex, etc. This article will hopefully answer a few of the common questions about a man’s bent penis.

Not so unusual
 
First, it’s important to know that some curvature of the penis is not unusual - and, in fact, many women find a little bit of a curve to be aesthetically very pleasing. It is actually the rare erect penis that is perfectly straight. While there are no statistics kept on this, many doctors agree that the most common curvature is a slight curve upward, giving the penis a shape that is a bit more "banana" like. However, many erect penises also curve downward, to the left or to the right. It’s also not unusual for there to be some combination, such as a penis that curves both upward and to the left.

In cases in which the curvature is minimal, there is no cause for concern. However, if a man possesses a bent penis in which the degree of curvature is significant, he is said to have Peyronie’s disease and there may be some sexual issues to consider.

Peyronie’s disease
 
Named after the doctor who first wrote about it in the medical literature, Peyronie’s disease generally occurs due to trauma to the penis. The word "trauma" tends to bring to mind images of excruciating pain, and sometimes this is the case; for example, the trauma may have been caused by being punched very hard in the penis.

However, trauma can also refer to any event that causes tearing of tissue in the penis. This occurs more often than one might think. A man might couple with a woman without sufficient lubrication, for example, or might engage in an over-lengthy masturbation session; the rawness of these acts in some cases can cause slight tearing in penile tissue.

In the case of a blunt force blow trauma, a significant degree of tissue damage may occur. In the case of the aggressive or rough sex, the degree may be much smaller; however, if the trauma occurs repeatedly over time, the amount of tissue damaged can be substantial.

In either case, when the tissue heals, interior scarring occurs. In some cases, this scarring may prevent the repaired tissue from having the flexibility it once had. Thus when the penis becomes erect, the scarred area cannot expand as fully as the rest of the penis does, thus pulling the erect penis up, down or to the side, creating the bent penis.

Impact
 
Most men with a bent penis can still perform sexually with no problem. As a matter of fact, some women report that a bent penis - especially one that curves upward - is better at stimulating the clitoris.

However, in some cases the degree of curvature can be so extreme that intercourse is negatively affected. In such cases, some men may choose surgery as an option to straighten the penis. 
Fortunately, a bent penis only rarely affects a man’s sexual congress with women. And whether bent or straight, the manhood needs to be healthy, so be sure he uses a superior penis health crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil, which is clinically proven mild and safe for skin) . Look for a crème with vitamin C, a key component of collagen, which gives penis skin its tone and elasticity. The crème should also include L-carnitine, an amino acid that has been shown to protect against peripheral nerve damage from rough and aggressive sex.

Itchy Penis: What Women Need to Know

Ladies, you’ve all been there: out with a man who keeps giving his crotch a quick surreptitious scratch. An itchy penis is at least an occasional issue for all men, and a chronic one for some. Even men whose attention to penis health is exceptional may still have the inevitable itchy penis on occasion. What women need to know is whether the itchiness is of the everyday variety or whether it suggests a bigger problem - especially if that problem is one that could be passed on to his partner.

Itchy penis happens
 
As mentioned above, an itchy penis is something all men experience at times. In most cases, it’s a momentary issue, just like an itch anywhere else on the body. In other cases, it may be due to a totally benign cause. For example, sometimes the pubic hair is brushing against the penis, causing the need to scratch. In other instances, it may be a slight allergic reaction. Often detergents used in laundering clothes or soap used in showering may contain a harsh ingredient that creates an itchy situation.
It may also be due to a still benign but not necessarily pleasant cause, such as improper hygiene. If a man has not bathed sufficiently, the itch may be related to that problem. Some men get balanitis, an inflammation of the glans of the penis; if the cause of the balanitis is non-contagious, then it will likewise not be contagious to the partner.

In some instances, a man with a latex allergy will develop an itchy penis due to use of latex condoms.
But there are numerous other factors that can lead to an itchy penis, and these may potentially impact anyone who shares his bed with him. These include:

- Jock itch. Yes, this most famous of male itches is a common problem. A fungal infection, jock itch is considered a low-to-moderate risk when it comes to passing through sexual contact, but it can happen.

- Yeast infection. Women are not the only ones to suffer from a genital-based yeast infection, although it is much rarer in men than in women. Typically called "thrush" when it occurs in men, women are particularly susceptible to acquiring this.

- Crabs and scabies. Parasitic mites, often caused by unhygienic conditions or by exposure to an affected partner, can create a serious itchy situation. Both of these are very contagious and can be a pain to eradicate.

- Herpes. About one of every six adults in the U.S. has genital herpes, one symptom of which is itchiness in the affected area. Herpes cannot be cured, so those who contract it from a partner will need to take steps to manage and control it whenever it "breaks out."

- Major STIs. Many serious sexually-transmitted infections (STIs), like gonorrhea or chlamydia, often list itchiness as one of their key symptoms. There are usually - but not always - other visible tell-tale signs, such as an unpleasant urinal discharge or lesions in the area. Avoiding STIs is important, so if a woman suspects a man may have one, she should avoid having sex until after he has been cleared via appropriate testing.

Most cases of penile itching are harmless. However, women may want to encourage their partners to take steps to alleviate that itchy penis. One thing that helps is regularly using a superior penis health crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil, which is clinically proven mild and safe for skin). Often an itchy penis is due to dry skin, so moisturizing via a crème with both a high-end emollient (such as Shea butter) and a natural hydrator (such as vitamin E) can be a step in the right direction. It also helps if the crème includes vitamin B5, which aids in maintaining healthy tissue and giving penis skin a nice appearance.

Penis Odor: What Women Can Tell Their Men

Women in relationships with men often find that talking about some subjects can be a bit difficult - and one of those subjects is penis odor. Even men who practice exceptional penis care may experience occasional bouts of penis odor - and may not even be aware of the fact. So if a woman is involved with a man whose member carries a very definite aroma with it, what should she do?

Why penis odor?
First, it helps for women to understand why penis odor is such a frequent issue with men.

As most people know, odor is frequently associated with bacteria - and bacteria tend to breed in areas in which there is a combination of both heat and moisture. Such a description fits the penis to a T.
The heat is the key factor here. The penis is (typically) hidden beneath not one but two layers of clothing, which ups the heat quotient right there. In addition, tight underwear increases the amount of heat, as does a thick thatch of pubic hair, which many men sport. Finally, the process by which an erection is achieved generates heat itself.

With all that hotness going on, sweat becomes a natural by-product. And with the sweat comes the odor-causing bacteria.

In addition, men who are physically active - running, biking, playing football, etc. - are going to increase the amount of sweat all over, including in the crotch.

Other smells
Of course, not all smells that emanate from the penis are necessarily bad. Men also excrete pheromones, which produce a scent that can be sexually arousing for many women.

But in addition to sweat, other things can contribute to penis odor. For example, a yeast infection (and yes, men do get those) can make an especially "fishy" smell. In addition, a man’s diet can contribute to his odor issues; some foods (such as asparagus) can produce a more distinctive body aroma.

Hygiene
Sometimes, that penis odor is a direct result of insufficient attention to hygiene. That doesn’t necessarily mean that the guy doesn’t wash; he just may not be aware of how strong the odor he gives off may be and so he may not wash as thoroughly as the situation demands. And sometimes even men who are meticulous in their hygiene may have a persistent penis odor, due to their body’s overactive production of bacteria. (These men will need to use an expert penis health crème, but more about that later.)

What to say
Bringing up penis odor can be difficult, but if it’s a real problem, women need to find a way to do it. In some relationships, the best approach is to be direct: "The odor around your penis is a real turn-off. We need to find a way to deal with it."

For men whose egos may be a bit more fragile, it may help to cushion the blow: "You are such a great guy and I really, really love how we connect when we’re in bed. But I’ve noticed sometimes there can be a little smell around your penis that I don’t like."

Telling a guy that he would be more likely to get oral sex if he could make his penis smell better is also an incentive to try.

Women can also offer to help with the penis odor by taking a shower with their man and offering to later help apply a top drawer penis health crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil) to help eliminate the odor. This "hands on" approach can be very helpful. Just be sure that the selected crème contains vitamin A, which has superb antibacterial properties that can really attack stubborn penis odor. It’s also productive to use a crème with a powerful moisturizing component, such as the high end emollient shea butter and the natural hydrator vitamin E. Since thorough washing can rub away necessary oils along with the bacteria, the moisturizers can then help keep the penis skin nice and soft.