Mutual Masturbation: Sharing Solo Pleasure

Masturbation is, without question, a popular activity for both men and women - but mutual masturbation is a much rarer occurrence. Yet sharing one's solo pleasure with another person can be a rewarding experience for both parties. Naturally, male participants will want to make sure that they engage in adequate penis care so that the organ looks good and healthy when displayed in this way. But once any shyness or hesitation about penile appearance is allayed, a man should be ready to plunge head first into the mutual masturbation experience.

Overcoming the taboo
 
It is undoubtedly true that there is much more openness about masturbation today than in years past. Certainly the subject is discussed more freely. In the past, a man would have been loath to admit that he masturbated, even to his best friend. Today it's a given that men enjoy fondling themselves at least occasionally, and some men are unashamed to admit to their friends that pleasuring themselves is a regular activity. Organized events such as National Masturbation Month help to de-stigmatize a pastime that is enjoyed by almost all.

Nonetheless, there is still a bit of a taboo around the subject of masturbation. This can especially be true when dealing with two people in a sexual relationship. For example, a man and a woman who are regularly coupling may feel awkward discussing the subject of masturbation. If the relationship is one of some duration, it may be increasingly awkward. Many times, a woman may be dismayed to know that the man with whom she is regularly intimate also enjoys masturbating. There can be a feeling that this is somehow "cheating" or that the partner sex is not satisfying enough.

It's natural
 
In fact, masturbation is part of the menu of sexual activities and a man who masturbates while in a relationship is neither cheating nor expressing dissatisfaction with the pleasure he derives from coupling. Spending some sexual "me time" is a legitimate need, and one that can vary from man to man. One man may masturbate more times in one week than another man does in an entire year.

Getting mutual
 
Couples who can overcome a reluctance to masturbate together can find that the experience has many rewards, such as:

- Deepening trust. Masturbating in front of another person demonstrates a deep trust in that person. This expression of trust can strengthen an existing bond and make two people feel closer to each other.

- Arousal. By definition, masturbation is an arousing act - but masturbating together with another person increases the arousal quotient considerably. Watching another person engaging in what is considered a very private act can be deeply erotic.

- Education. There is a great deal that one can learn from watching a partner masturbate. One can see how she handles herself and what things she does differently; a man can learn a great deal about what causes pleasurable sensations and can use this information when he is touching her or coupling with her. (And the reverse is also true: She can learn about ways she can enhance the pleasure that she gives to her partner as well.) As a couple progresses, they may move from manually pleasuring themselves to manually pleasuring each other - and that can also be a rather pleasurable educational experience.

Like a bit of everyday solo pleasure, mutual masturbation is more enjoyable for both partners when the penis is in good health. Regular application of a quality penis health crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil) can help to ensure that health. For a man, masturbation can get a bit overheated, sometimes leading to a man handling himself too roughly or exerting a grip that is too tight in the quest for release. This can lead to de-sensitization, but a crème with neuroprotective acetyl L-carnitine can help repair the peripheral nerve damage that causes loss of sensation. A well-masturbated penis may also be a bit sore; using a crème with Shea butter and vitamin E can help to alleviate the soreness that comes from being over-aggressive with the penis. And asking one's partner to apply the crème can be yet another way of establishing pleasurable tenderness in a relationship.

When Mutual Masturbation Isn’t So Mutual

"Sexual relations" in terms of couples typically refers to intercourse, but the truth is that it can encompass much more, including mutual masturbation. For the adventurous couple, mutual masturbation can be an excellent way to expand their sexual horizons (especially when they keep in mind appropriate vagina and penis care). Sometimes, however the experience may be more mutual than other times.

Coming to terms
While it may seem that defining mutual masturbation should be easy, the fact is that not everyone would agree on its definition. For example, many people would agree that mutual masturbation could mean two people engaged in sexual relations in which one is actively masturbating the other while simultaneously being masturbated by the partner. (And, of course, this definition could also apply to such a shared activity between more than two people.)

However, suppose the masturbation is not simultaneous but serial? That is to say, "person one" masturbates "person two" until orgasm, then person two returns the favor with person one? To some, this might not meet their definition of mutual masturbation.

Similarly, there can be a situation in which person one masturbates himself while person two simultaneously masturbates herself. Or a situation may arise in which a man masturbates to completion while his partner watches, then in turn he watches as his partner pleasures herself.
To some, each of these instances would qualify as mutual masturbation, while to others only one or some would.

Unequal effort
The above examples deal with situations in which the definition is in question. More problematic are situations in which the effort going into the masturbation is not quite as mutual as it might be. For example:

- Tired out. One partner may be brought to orgasm quickly by the other, achieving a state of great satisfaction. However, the sated partner may then profess to be a bit tired or to have a sore hand and may suggest the still-aroused partner bring about a release on his or her own.

- Roughing it. On occasion, one partner may not know the appropriate way to handle the other partner. A woman may pound relentlessly on a tool, gripping far too tightly and not using any lubrication. Conversely, a man may rush his fingers into a woman without properly preparing the way or may rub in an aggressive, unpleasant manner that causes soreness rather than sexy sensations.

- Too nice and easy. Of course, the reverse can also be true. A person may handle the other's equipment too gingerly. A gentle touch is nice, but a certain amount of friction is needed, especially where men are concerned.

- A bit of waffling. And on occasion, a partner may go back and forth between deciding whether mutual masturbation is right for them or not. There's nothing wrong with changing one's mind, of course, but a partner can still get frustrated in such a situation.

If a couple is good at communication, these issues can easily be resolved by telling the other partner what feels good or discussing the best way that the couple should proceed.

Whether considering mutual masturbation, intercourse, oral sex or another option, a man wants to be sure that his equipment is in its best health for the activity, which is where regular use of a superior penis health cream (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil) comes into play. A roughly-handled manhood may have lost some sensation, and a cream that includes a top-drawer neuroprotective ingredient like acetyl L-carnitine may be just the ticket for restoring that lost sensation. It also helps to use a cream with L-arginine, which is an aid to nitric oxide production and the subsequent relaxation of penile blood vessels that it encourages. Keeping the organ in tip-top health is a boon to any man - and his partner.