Impotence - How One Man Learned to Deal With It

Men often joke around about impotence. It's an easy thing to make fun of, and the right joke is almost certain to get a big laugh. But in reality, the inability to reach arousal is no laughing matter. In fact, it can be devastating for men, and those who are impacted might be desperate to find the right penis care methods to resolve the problem.

That's what happened to one man, who will be referred to in this article as Ben. He agreed to share his story in order to raise awareness about the seriousness of impotence, and the ways in which the problem can be handled.

A Physical Source

"I started having problems a few years ago, when I had a pretty serious back injury," Ben says. "I was in a lot of pain, so the whole idea of sex wasn't really all that appealing. But even when I started to feel better, I noticed that I just couldn't get things moving. I might be interested in having sex, but my body wasn’t really cooperating."

"When I went through some more tests, they found that I had damaged the nerves that go from the spinal cord to the penis," Ben says. "This wasn't a mental thing, so counseling wouldn't solve it, and it wasn't something that surgery could cure. I was told that I needed to learn how to adjust and live with the loss, since it probably wouldn't be coming back."

Mental Exercises

"When I first found out that I wouldn't be able to have sex with my wife, and I mean sex like we used to have, I felt really awful," says Ben. "I didn’t think I was much of a man anymore, and I couldn't figure out why she'd want to have anything to do with me, since I was so broken and worthless. All of those little thoughts went around and around in my head. It wasn't good."

"My wife is wonderful, though, and she encouraged me to talk to a therapist about all of this. We decided to go together. We talked about what had happened between us in the past, and what we needed to do in the future. We just cleared the air," Ben says. "It wasn't easy for me to talk about this stuff at all, but I think it was really important."

Physical Help

"While the therapy was really important, I also decided to start looking into physical aides that would allow me to make love to my wife. One of the tools I tried was a vacuum pump," Ben says. "It basically bypasses the nerves altogether, and when I used it, I saw pretty remarkable results. Sure, it takes the spontaneity out of sex, but I could actually have sex. So that part was great."

"But I also learned that sex isn't all about the thrusting," Ben says. "My wife and I have epic sex sessions now that have a lot to do with touching and oral play, and we both love that. It's something we didn't do a lot of before I got hurt, so that's been really great."

Ben also started using a penis vitamin crème. While these products can't repair nerve damage, they contain elements that can keep penile skin soft and sensitive, including:

• Vitamin E
• Alpha lipoic acid
• Vitamin A
• L-arginine

A quality penis health crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil) like with these ingredients might help skin to stay softer and just a little more supple, so a man can feel every little tingle and touch that comes his way. These products can also make the tool a bit nicer to look at, which might entice more partner interaction.