Kinky Sex for Beginners: Consider Attending a Munch

A healthy sex life is important for mental, physical and penile health. For some men, a healthy sex life entails exploring their more eccentric interests. Those who are curious about kinky sex - whether incorporating bondage, discipline, sadism, masochism, fetishes or some combination of these - may want to consider attending a munch.

What is a munch?
A munch is a social event organized by participants of the kink community. These events are generally held in a public place, such as a restaurant or café. Often, attendees enjoy lunch, dinner and/or drinks while talking about various aspects of BDSM or fetish life, or just socializing. Depending on the size of the gathering, the attendees can be expected to represent a range of experience levels and interests. It’s a place for learning, sharing and building a sense of community with other people who have non-traditional sexual leanings.

What is a munch not?
Generally, munches are not held as "pick up" gatherings - one shouldn’t attend expecting to find a new sexual partner. Although, one might earn an invitation to a sex party, depending on the crowd, or meet someone with whom to explore later.

Is it safe?
Attending a munch is certainly safer than taking up one of those Craigslist casual encounters. It’s held in public, and people who go to them tend to be interested in a close-knit and respectful community. Still, there is always some risk involved when meeting up with strangers. Some may wish to bring a friend or partner.

If one wishes to go alone but has concerns, he can consider contacting the person organizing the event. This person may hold a seat next to him/her and make a special effort to help a guy feel comfortable, introducing him to others and checking in on how he’s feeling throughout the duration of the gathering.

Are some people "too vanilla" for a munch?
No! A munch is not about competition. It’s about welcoming, learning, sharing and making friends. One shouldn’t fear that his interests aren’t "kinky enough" or that he has too little experience to attend a munch. These events are not just for people who have extreme interests or who have acted upon them, but for those who are genuinely curious about kinky sex and may want to learn more about it as well.

What is proper munch etiquette?
1. Respect others. Don’t ask very intimate questions at first.

2. Don’t brag. In keeping with the atmosphere of welcoming, one shouldn’t be boastful about how kinky his thoughts or experiences have been - he can share, but not with the intention of making others feel "too vanilla."

3. If one wants to wear something out of the ordinary that speaks to his kink - a collar, for example - he should contact the organizer to see if such is deemed appropriate. Most of the time, people dress for a munch how they normally do.

4. Know if there are any specifications of the munch you plan to attend. Some have age group restrictions; some are dominants or submissives only, etc. Respect those specs.

Where does one find out when munches are happening?
One can google the term "munch" along with his location, or create a FetLife account and search there. FetLife is a social media network for kinksters.

Men with a kinky side might find that, along with exploring that side more, they will benefit their sex lives by taking extra precautions against some of the injuries and issues certain kinks can cause to the penis. Penis torture, very rough handling, the use of cock rings and so on can all lead to significant chafing of the manhood, and men would do well to keep their skin in the best condition possible before and after such sessions. Using a quality penis health crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil) can do wonders for penile skin health, limit chafing and leave the skin more resilient to the frictions both of daily life and of kinky time. Kinkster or no, any man can benefit from the use of a good skin care product.

Sex Tips - Easing into Kinky Sex

Many couples are into the oft-maligned "vanilla" sex, referring to sex that is fairly straight up and devoid of any kinky or atypical aspects. But many sex advisors and specialists think that this is due not to a disinterest in kinkier aspects of sex so much as a reluctance to admit to having an interest. Men who are interested in some form of kinky sex (and who are prepared to practice good, protective penis care while pursuing it) may find the following sex tips useful in exploring this option.

Be brave.
People build up personas that define themselves. There’s nothing wrong with that, but sometimes people get defined in a way that doesn’t truly reflect all sides of them. This can be especially true when someone has a desire to move beyond "typical" sexual activities. It can take courage to just broach the subject of this desire, even with a partner with whom one has shared much already. But if delving into this area is important to a man, his first step is to find the courage to take the first step of talking about it.

Don’t spring it.
If this desire is going to come as a surprise to a partner of long standing, it’s best not to just blurt it out. Finding a way to ease into the conversation is preferred. Some like a "joking" way: When passing a sex shop, a man might say, "Hey, do we have time to pick up a whip and a few penis rings?" in a joking manner. But later on that night, he can refer to that: "You know when I made that joke about the sex toys?" and follow up with, "Well, I was wondering if maybe there are some new things we might want to try out some time."

Talk first.
Once the subject has been broached, if the partner is receptive, it’s a good idea to talk things through first. Talk about the things that are of interest to both parties. It’s good to set up a non-judgmental and honest framework: Both parties should talk about what interests them and how they feel about what interests the other person. Any resistance to participation should be discussed and respected. A partner should also be open about how far he or she is willing to go. And both parties should realize that they are free to change their minds - either before, during or after an exploration.

Start slowly.
Most couples find it helps to start slowly. Rather than starting off with props, for example, perhaps a little role-playing with, say, an imaginary set of handcuffs or a faux-leather bra is desirable. Some light rubbing of the posterior might be a good lead-in to actual spanking later.

Pick words.
Safe words are a good idea if the kinky sex gets a little too intense. Participants can choose a word that, if they utter it, means things have moved beyond their comfort level and they should stop now.
Know how things work.
Before employing props in one’s sex play, make sure both partners know how they work. For example, a chastity cage for the penis may be fun during some role-playing, but will be less fun if neither partner knows how to remove it.
No list of sex tips is complete without a reminder to have fun - and for men to make sure their bout of kinky sex doesn’t affect their penis health. Since soreness may result from rough play, having on hand a quality penis health crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil) is a must. A crème with a good combination of moisturizers (Shea butter and vitamin E, for example) and antioxidants (such as alpha lipoic acid) can do wonders for alleviating transient penile soreness. Also important: a crème with vitamin C, which is an aid in collagen production and penile tissue firmness. After all, one needs to refresh and revitalize one’s penis to be ready for whatever new games may be coming one’s way.

Kinky Sex in the Snow: Risking a Raw Penis for the Frosty Adventure

Many couples enjoy a bit of kinky sex, but not so many extend their adventurous sexual indulgences into the snow; if nothing else, such activities threaten to make for a very raw penis, if not a frostbitten one. Needless to say, romping around naked in sub-freezing temperatures is far from what would be considered good penis care, so it really is something that should be avoided. However, for those for whom their exploration of kinky sex includes exposing the tool to the snowy weather, a bit of thought is called for to help minimize the damage to the member.

Be sure.
The first thing is to be sure that both partners are committed to taking this particular plunge. This is a good idea whenever venturing into new sexual territory, of course. With snow sex, however, it’s especially advisable; no man wants to have his junk whipped about by freezing winds only to discover that his partner wasn’t really serious about this adventure.

Make plans.
While spontaneous sex has its advantages, if a couple is interested in copulating in the snow, it makes sense to do a little advance preparation. Among the things that one should consider are:

- Location. This is obvious, but it’s important that one engages in sex in a secluded area in which there are no onlookers. Sex is fun, but getting arrested for it is not. Beyond the "public" factor, the couple needs to make sure that the chosen spot allows for a quick disrobing and an equally speedy re-adoption of clothing.

- Dry clothing. If one is disrobing outdoors, it is important to either have a place to put the clothes that will keep them dry or to have a fresh set of dry clothes to step into after the snow sex. Fresh robes, blankets and other coverings are also advised, as is a nice hot mug of cocoa, coffee or tea.

- Warm up in advance. The cold will set in quickly no matter what a person does, but warming up as much as possible in advance is advised. Some enjoy going from a hot tub or sauna into the snow, but the dampness factor can make this inadvisable. A better bet may be to snuggle in front of a roaring fire before exposing oneself to the cold.

- Use blankets. Unless one is incredibly hardy, the member of the couple who will be on the bottom will want to lie on a blanket.

- Know when to stop. Fun is fun, but this kind of activity does carry with it the very real possibility of frostbite or other damage. This form of kinky sex should definitely be a quickie - and should be stopped when either partner has had enough, whether the deed has been fully accomplished or not.

Position is important.
For sex in the snow, a standing position (if attainable) or doggie style is preferable to missionary or other positions in which a large portion of the body is prone on the ground.

Re-entry is key.
Absolutely make sure that one does not lock oneself out of the warmth of home or car when done. And don’t be afraid to re-create the sexual experience again once the couple has safely returned to a warm setting.

As previously stated, snow sex is not without risks, and clearly a frostbitten penis is one of them. Men should take great care to avoid this and should seek medical help if frostbite occurs anywhere.
A raw penis from kinky sex in the snow may not be as dangerous as a frostbitten one, but it is a problem nonetheless. Applying a high-quality penis health cream (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil) can help. First, the rubbing in of a cream by itself helps get the circulation going again. If the chosen cream contains L-arginine, which aids in penis blood flow, this can also aid in getting circulation back to normal. In addition, a cream that is loaded with natural moisturizers, such as Shea butter and vitamin E, will help alleviate the raw penis; if it also has vitamin B5, it will help to enable healthy penile function, easing the rawness further.